What is the rule of thumb for a wedding guest list?

The dinner party test is a simple way to decide. Imagine you are hosting a meal at home. Who would you genuinely want to sit at your table? Those are your wedding guests. If someone feels like an obligation, like a distant cousin you never see or a work colleague you barely know, they probably do not need an invitation. Another useful rule is the one-year rule: if you have not spoken to them in the last twelve months, outside of a group chat or a quick social media like, they are not a close enough friend. That said, family can be different. You may feel pressure to invite certain relatives to keep the peace, even if you are not close. In that case, decide together with your partner what matters more: a smaller, relaxed day or avoiding family tension. There is no universal rule, but these guidelines help you stay focused on the people who truly matter. Be honest with yourself, and remember that your wedding is about your relationship, not about pleasing everyone.