What is wedding etiquette for guests?

Short answer

Guest etiquette means replying to your invitation promptly, following the dress code, and bringing a card or gift if you can. Turn off your phone during the ceremony, and do not give a speech unless asked. Be kind, punctual and present.

As a guest, your main job is to make the couple feel celebrated and supported. Start by replying to the invitation as soon as possible, and always by the date given. This helps the couple confirm numbers with their venue and caterer. If you cannot attend, let them know politely and do not ask to bring a plus one unless the invitation says so. Follow the dress code, whether it is formal, casual or themed, and check the venue or invitation for any guidance. Bring a card and a gift if you can, but do not feel pressured to spend a lot. A thoughtful, personal gift is always appreciated. During the ceremony, turn your phone off or on silent and do not take photos unless the couple has said it is fine. Many couples now ask for an unplugged ceremony. Do not give a speech unless you have been asked. If you are asked, keep it short, warm and appropriate. At the reception, be sociable, join in with the dancing if you feel comfortable, and thank the couple before you leave. If you have dietary requirements, tell the couple in advance. If you need to leave early, let them know beforehand. Above all, be punctual, kind and present. Your presence is the gift they value most.