How do I plan a wedding guest list?

Your guest list shapes your venue, catering and budget, so start early. First, decide how many people you can realistically host. Check your venue's maximum capacity and your budget for catering. Then, together with your partner, write down everyone you would love to have. Use a spreadsheet with columns for names, addresses, whether they get a plus one, and RSVP status. This makes it easy to track.

Prioritise. Usually, immediate family and very close friends come first. Then add extended family and friends you see regularly. If you need to cut, set a rule, such as no children, or no colleagues, and apply it fairly. Decide on plus ones: for example, only for partners who are married, engaged or living together, or for guests who would not know anyone else. Be consistent to avoid hurt feelings.

Send invitations with a clear RSVP date, at least 4 weeks before your wedding, and follow up with anyone who forgets. Remember you need two witnesses for the ceremony, so make sure at least two guests are willing to sign. Keep a waiting list if you have a hard cap, in case someone declines. Finally, be kind when you tell people they are not invited, if asked. A simple, honest explanation works best.