How do I plan a wedding guide?

Short answer

To plan a wedding guide, start with a clear checklist of tasks, from legal notices to the reception. Break it into monthly and weekly steps. Use a shared document or app to track progress with your partner.

A wedding guide is simply a structured plan that keeps you organised. Begin with the legal essentials. In England and Wales, both of you must give notice at your local register office, at least 28 days before the ceremony, and the wedding must happen within 12 months. In Scotland, submit a marriage notice at least 29 days before, and in Northern Ireland, 28 days. Check with your venue or place of worship for any extra requirements, such as banns for a Church of England wedding.

Then list your main tasks: venue, date, guest list, catering, clothing, rings, music, flowers, photography, invitations, and the ceremony itself. For each task, set a deadline. Work backwards from your wedding date. For example, send invitations at least 8 weeks ahead, and confirm final numbers with your venue 2 weeks before. Use a simple spreadsheet or a paper planner. Share it with your partner so you both know who does what.

Include a budget column, but keep it realistic and flexible. Also plan for the day itself: a timeline for the ceremony, photos, drinks, meal and speeches. Have a backup plan for weather if you are outdoors. Finally, keep a section for thank-you notes and name changes after the wedding. Your guide should be a living document, updated as you make decisions.