How do I plan a wedding list?

A wedding list is a way for guests to give you something useful without guessing. Start by talking with your partner about what you really need, whether that is homeware, experiences, or help towards a big purchase like a house deposit. Many couples now prefer a cash fund or a mix of physical gifts and contributions.

Pick a list service that is easy for guests to use. You can build a list online, add items from different shops, or choose a single store. Make sure the service allows guests to see what has already been bought, so you do not get duplicates. Include items at different price points, from small tokens to larger gifts, so everyone can find something within their budget. If you prefer cash, explain clearly how guests can contribute, for example towards a honeymoon or a new home.

Share the list discreetly. Put the link on your wedding website and mention it on the invitation if that is the norm in your circle. Do not pressure anyone. Some guests will still give cash or a card, and that is fine. After the wedding, send thank-you notes promptly. You can also use the list to track who gave what, which helps with your thank-you messages.