Whose name should be written in RSVP?

Short answer

Write the names of everyone invited in the RSVP, exactly as they appear on the invitation envelope. This makes it clear who is included, especially for couples, families and plus-ones, and avoids confusion about numbers.

When you ask for an RSVP, you need to know exactly who is coming. The simplest way is to write the names of all invited guests on the RSVP card or in the online form. For example, if you invited "Mr and Mrs Smith", write both names. If you invited "Alice Jones and guest", write that too.

This is especially important for couples who are not married, families with children, and anyone you have offered a plus-one to. By naming everyone, you make it clear who is welcome and who is not. It also helps you plan seating and catering accurately.

On the RSVP card, leave a line for guests to write their names, but pre-print the names if you can. Many couples use a simple line like "Please reply by [date]" and then a space for names. If you are using a wedding website, the RSVP form can ask each guest to confirm individually.

If a guest writes back with extra names, such as adding a partner you did not invite, you can decide kindly whether to accommodate them. But having clear names from the start reduces awkwardness. Always check the RSVP against your guest list and follow up if anything is unclear.