Whose name is supposed to go first on a wedding invitation?

Short answer

There is no legal rule about whose name goes first. Traditionally, the bride's name came first, but today many couples list names in the order they prefer, often alphabetically or with the person they know best first. Choose what feels right for you.

There is no legal rule about whose name goes first on a wedding invitation in the UK. The tradition of putting the bride's name first comes from older etiquette, but it is not a requirement. Many modern couples now list their names in the order that feels most natural to them, such as alphabetical order, or the person who is closer to the guests sending the invitation.

If you are sending invitations to different groups, you might find it easier to keep the same order throughout for consistency. Some couples choose to put the name of the person whose family or friends are receiving the invitation first, but this is entirely optional. The most important thing is that both names are clearly written and the invitation feels welcoming.

For same-sex couples, there is no traditional order, so you are free to decide. For opposite-sex couples, you can also ignore the old convention if you prefer. If you want a traditional feel, put the bride's name first, but if you prefer equality or a different logic, that is fine too. The wording of the invitation should be clear and easy to read. If you are unsure, ask your stationer or check with your venue, but there is no official rule to follow.