How far ahead of time should RSVP be for a wedding?

Short answer

Ask for RSVPs at least three to four weeks before the wedding. This gives you time to chase late replies, confirm numbers with your venue and caterer, and finalise the seating plan without rushing.

The RSVP date should give you enough breathing room after the replies come in. Most venues and caterers need final numbers about two weeks before the wedding, so setting your RSVP date three to four weeks ahead is sensible.

If you are having a destination wedding or many guests are travelling from far away, ask for replies earlier, perhaps six to eight weeks before. This helps guests book travel and accommodation, and it gives you a clearer picture sooner.

For a local wedding with mostly nearby guests, four weeks is usually plenty. You can always extend the deadline if you are waiting on a few important people, but it is better to set a firm date and stick to it.

Remember that giving notice for the marriage itself is separate from RSVPs. The legal notice period is at least 28 days in England and Wales, and 29 days in Scotland, but that is between you and the registrar, not your guests.

Whatever date you choose, put it clearly on the invitation. Include the date in full, for example "Please reply by 1 June". This avoids confusion and helps everyone plan. If you are using a wedding website, you can also set automatic reminders for guests who have not replied.