Do you RSVP on save the dates?

Save the dates are sent early, often six to twelve months before the wedding, so guests can book time off or arrange travel. They are not a request for a final answer. The couple will send a formal invitation closer to the date, and that is when you respond. If you already know you cannot attend when you receive the save the date, it is kind to let the couple know informally, but you do not need to send a formal reply. If you are unsure, wait. Do not tell the couple you are coming on the save the date and then change your mind later, as that creates confusion. When the invitation arrives, check the RSVP method, whether it is a card, an email or an online form, and reply by the date given. If you have not received an invitation but had a save the date, it may mean the invitation is lost, so it is fine to ask the couple politely.