How much money to give during a tea ceremony?

In a traditional Chinese tea ceremony, the couple serves tea to their parents and elders as a sign of respect. Guests are not normally expected to take part in the tea ceremony itself. If you are a close family member or friend who is invited into the family circle, you may be given a red envelope to place in a bowl or tray.

The amount is entirely up to you. Think about how close you are to the couple and what you can comfortably afford. Some people choose a round number that sounds lucky, such as one ending in an even digit. Others give an amount that covers their meal cost. There is no rule that says you must match what anyone else gives.

If you are unsure, a modest, heartfelt gift is always acceptable. The gesture matters far more than the figure. You can also give a gift from the couple's registry instead of cash if you prefer.