What does a best man usually pay for?

The best man's spending is not set in law or tradition. In practice, he covers his own suit or kilt hire, his travel to the wedding, and his hotel room if he needs one. He also organises the stag do, which usually means paying for his own share and often helping with the groom's costs, though the group normally splits the groom's portion.

He buys a wedding gift, either on his own or as part of a group gift with other groomsmen. He might pay for small extras like his speech notes, a gift for the groom, or a thank-you card for the couple. He does not usually pay for the couple's wedding day expenses, such as the venue, catering or flowers.

If money is tight, talk to the couple and the rest of the bridal party early. Many couples are happy to cover outfits or accommodation to keep costs fair. The best man should never feel pressured to spend beyond his means. A good rule is to agree a budget together before any bookings are made.