Bridesmaid, best man and usher duties checklist

This tool lists the usual jobs for each role, from the weeks before your wedding to the moment you say your vows. Roles vary by culture, faith and family, so treat this as a starting point, not a rulebook.

• Best man: holds the rings, gives a speech, checks the groom is on time and helps the ushers.
• Maid of honour: supports the bride, helps with her dress and keeps the bridesmaids organised.
• Bridesmaids: help the bride get ready, hold her bouquet and join the entrance and photos.
• Ushers: welcome guests, show them to seats and hand out order of service booklets.

Talk to your wedding party early. Agree who does what so no one feels unsure.

Share the role lists a few weeks before your wedding, once your venue and timings are confirmed. That gives everyone time to plan around work, travel and other commitments.

Send the full checklist when you confirm the date, time and meeting point. Send role-specific reminders a few days before, especially for jobs like holding the rings or giving a speech. On the day, keep the list handy so your wedding party can check tasks off together. If something changes, update the list and let the group know straight away. Clear timing stops last-minute confusion.

Keep the workload fair. Not every role needs the same number of jobs, and some couples ask friends to help without a formal title. Be clear about what you need and say thank you.

• Give written instructions with times, addresses and contact numbers.
• Ask about any costs they might have, like travel or a hen or stag do.
• Plan a short team check-in before the ceremony.
• Remember that family shape and culture differ, so adapt roles as you wish.
• Thank everyone after the wedding, whether or not they could attend.