What should the mother of the groom not do?

The main thing the mother of the groom should avoid is overstepping. That means not pushing her own ideas for the venue, the menu, or the guest list, and not making negative comments about the couple's decisions. It is also wise to avoid wearing white, ivory, or anything too similar to the bridal party's outfits, as that can cause upset. She should not assume she has a role in the ceremony, like walking down the aisle or giving a speech, unless the couple invites her to. Another thing to avoid is making the day about her own family dynamics, such as complaining about the other side of the family or bringing up old disagreements. She should also not organise extra events, like a separate dinner, without checking with the couple first. The best approach is to be supportive, flexible, and gracious. If she has concerns, she should raise them privately and kindly before the wedding, not on the day. The couple's happiness is the priority. If she is unsure about a tradition, she can ask the couple what they want, rather than assuming. A little humility goes a long way.