Who traditionally gives a speech?

The classic line-up starts with the couple. They welcome everyone and set the tone for the evening. The best man follows with humour and a few fond memories. The father of the bride then speaks, often thanking guests and sharing thoughts about his daughter.

Today, many couples broaden this list. The mother of the bride may speak, and the parents of the groom often join in. A grandparent, a sibling, or a close friend can also take a turn. Some couples invite two people to speak together, which works well for co-parents or partners in a blended family.

The key is to choose speakers who know the couple and can speak from the heart. Keep each speech brief so the meal and dancing are not delayed. If someone is nervous, offer them a written copy or let them read from notes.

If your faith or venue has specific customs for who speaks, ask the register office, your place of worship or the venue manager to confirm the rules.