Does the mother of the bride give a speech?

There is no rule that says only the father of the bride speaks. Many mothers now give a speech, either on their own or together with the father. Some couples prefer two parents to share one speech, while others ask each parent to speak separately.

If you would like to speak, ask the couple early. They may have a plan for the order and timing. A mother's speech often welcomes guests, shares a short story about her child and offers advice or blessings. You can also thank helpers and guests for travelling.

If the couple decides not to include a mother's speech, that is their choice and not a reflection on your closeness. You can still offer your words in a card, a toast at the table or a quiet moment with your child. Every family shape is different, and there is no right or wrong way to show your love on the day.