How do you handle a plus-one who is a child?

Short answer

Decide your policy on children early and tell guests clearly. If you allow children, treat them as guests with their own seat and meal, and think about what they will do during the day.

Children at weddings are lovely, but they change the shape of the day. Start by deciding whether you want children at the ceremony, the reception, or both. Some couples invite children to the ceremony but ask for adults only at the evening party. Others have a children's table or a quiet room with activities. Whatever you choose, tell guests in advance. Put it on your invitation or wedding website, so parents can plan childcare.

If you do include children, give them a proper seat and a meal. Many venues offer a smaller portion or a simple children's menu. Ask parents about allergies or fussy eating. Think about entertainment: colouring books, games, or a designated corner can help. You might also arrange a babysitter or a creche, but that is optional and depends on your budget. If you prefer an adults-only wedding, say so kindly. Explain that you are keeping numbers low, and suggest local childcare options. Be understanding if parents cannot come because of that. The important thing is to be clear and kind, so no one feels surprised on the day.