How do you handle a plus-one who is a carer or support worker?

Short answer

Treat a carer as an essential guest, not an extra. Invite them by name, cover their meal and any access needs, and make sure the venue knows they are coming so they can support your guest properly.

A carer or support worker is not a social plus-one. They are there to help your guest take part in your wedding. So treat them with the same care as any other guest. Invite them by name on the invitation, or make clear they are welcome. Ask your guest what their carer needs, for example a seat nearby, a quiet space, or help with food. Tell the venue and your caterers about any access requirements, such as wheelchair ramps, accessible toilets, or a table with enough space.

Do not ask the carer to pay for their meal or to buy a gift. They are working. Make sure they have a schedule of the day so they can plan breaks. If the wedding has a long gap between ceremony and reception, check that there is somewhere for them to rest. You might also arrange for a family member to bring them a drink or a plate of food. The goal is to make sure your guest can enjoy the day without worry, and that the carer feels respected and supported. If you are unsure about anything, ask your guest directly. They will appreciate your thoughtfulness.