How do you handle a plus-one who is a person with a disability?

Short answer

Ask your guest what support they need and make sure the venue can provide it. Do not assume their needs or make decisions for them without asking first.

When you invite a guest, include a clear note about how to tell you about access needs. Ask directly and kindly what would make the day comfortable for them. This might include wheelchair access, step-free routes, hearing loops, quiet spaces, or help with travel. Your guest will know best what they need.

Check the venue carefully before you confirm it. Look at entrances, toilets, seating and parking. Ask whether there is space for a wheelchair at the head table or near the dance floor. If the building is old or listed, access may be limited. In that case, consider a different room or a different venue.

Do not bring up your guest's disability in front of others. Keep the conversation about their needs private. If they bring a support worker or carer, invite them too. Many venues can offer a free carer entry, but you should ask the venue about this in advance.

If you are unsure about any requirement, ask your guest or a specialist charity. For venue access rules, details can vary, so check with the venue and, if needed, the register office or place of worship.