What are the five rules of etiquette?

Short answer

The five rules of wedding guest etiquette are: RSVP by the date given, follow the dress code, bring a gift or card, switch your phone off, and thank your hosts before you leave.

The five rules of wedding guest etiquette are simple and kind. First, RSVP by the date on the invitation. The couple needs final numbers for the venue and caterer, so a late reply causes real stress. If you cannot attend, let them know as soon as you can.

Second, follow the dress code. If the invitation says black tie, lounge suit, or smart casual, respect it. When unsure, ask the couple or a member of the bridal party. It is better to be slightly overdressed than underdressed.

Third, bring a gift or a card. You do not need to spend a lot, but a thoughtful card with a small gift, or a contribution to their gift list, is expected. If you cannot afford a gift, a handwritten card is always appreciated.

Fourth, switch your phone off or put it on silent. Do not take photos during the ceremony unless the couple has asked guests to. Let the professional photographer do their job, and be present in the moment.

Fifth, thank your hosts before you leave. Find the couple or their parents and say a few warm words. A thank-you note afterwards is a lovely extra, but a personal thank-you on the day matters most.