What are the etiquette rules for sending invites?

Short answer

Send invitations to everyone you want at the wedding, with clear names and a reply date. Include all event details, plus your wedding website if you have one. Always send a separate invitation to each household or guest, and never assume someone is coming with a partner.

Etiquette for wedding invitations is about clarity and kindness. Send a physical invitation to every guest, even if you have also sent a digital save the date. Address envelopes with full names and titles, and write the guest's name clearly on the invitation itself. If a guest is invited with a partner, name that partner too. If children are invited, say so on the envelope or invitation. If not, politely leave them off.

Include the date, time, venue address, dress code, and a reply date. Add your wedding website for travel, accommodation and gift list details, but keep the invitation itself simple. For a formal wedding, ask guests to reply by post or email. For a relaxed wedding, a website RSVP is fine. Always give a deadline that gives you time to confirm numbers with your venue and caterer.

If you have multiple events, such as a ceremony, a drinks reception and an evening party, send one invitation that covers all of them. For separate events like a hen do or a morning-after brunch, send separate invitations or e-invites. The golden rule is to make every guest feel welcome and fully informed, and to reply to any questions quickly and kindly.