What is the first thing you should do to plan a wedding?

Short answer

The first thing to do is agree on a rough budget and a rough date with your partner. These two decisions shape every other choice, from venue to guest list. Talk openly about what matters most to you both before anything else.

Start by sitting down with your partner and having an honest conversation about money and timing. Agree on a total budget you are both comfortable with, and a season or month that works for your work, family and any important dates. Do not worry about exact figures yet, just a clear range.

Once you have those two anchors, decide on the size and style of the wedding. Roughly how many guests do you want? Is it a formal evening do, a relaxed afternoon gathering, or something in between? This will help you shortlist venues and suppliers without wasting time.

Next, check the legal basics for where you live in the UK. In England and Wales you need to give notice at a register office at least 28 days before the ceremony. In Scotland it is at least 29 days, and in Northern Ireland 28 days. The venue you choose must be legal for the type of ceremony you want, so ask the venue or your place of worship early. If you are unsure about any legal detail, the rules can change, so check GOV.UK or speak to your local register office.

Finally, write a simple list of priorities. Maybe the venue and food matter most, while flowers and favours matter less. That list will guide every decision and help you say no kindly when something is not essential.