Who writes speeches at weddings?

There is no fixed rule about who writes wedding speeches. Most often the people giving them write their own words. The couple may agree on a rough order, but each speaker keeps their own voice.

Common speakers include the parents of the couple, the best man, the maid of honour and sometimes the couple themselves. Some families ask a sibling, a grandparent or a close friend to speak instead. You can also invite more than one person to share one speech.

If you are unsure, ask the couple what they would like. They may want a short list of speakers, a time limit or a note about topics to avoid. Some couples prefer no speeches at all, while others want everyone to say a few words.

Write your speech for the people in the room. Keep it kind, keep it brief and avoid inside jokes that most guests will not understand. Practise out loud once or twice so you feel steady on the day.