How do you write wedding vows to your husband?

Short answer

Write vows to your husband by addressing him directly, using his name, and promising concrete ways you will support and cherish him. Keep them personal and heartfelt.

Think about the moments that define your relationship. Maybe it is how he calms you before big events, or how you both cook together on Fridays. Use these as the foundation for your promises. Vows that mention real memories feel more genuine than vague declarations.

Address him by name and use "you" throughout. Write in your own voice, as if you are speaking to him over dinner, not reading a script. Promise things you can do: to be his biggest supporter, to listen without interrupting, to dance with him in the kitchen. These small commitments carry weight.

Keep the length manageable. Around 100 to 150 words is a good guide. Start with a line about why you chose him. Then share two or three promises. Finish with a sentence about your life together. Practise aloud to check the rhythm.

Remember, your vows do not replace the legal declaration. The registrar or celebrant will handle the legal part. If you want religious vows, check with your place of worship, as traditions vary. For civil ceremonies in England and Wales, keep any readings or promises non-religious.