How do you write wedding vows for a vow renewal?

Short answer

For a vow renewal, write vows that look back at your marriage so far and forward to the next chapter. Focus on what you have learned and what you still promise each other today.

A vow renewal is not a first wedding, so your vows should feel different. Start by thinking about what has changed since you married. What have you been through together? What have you learned about each other? What do you still want to promise, now that you know each other better?

Write in the present tense where you can. Instead of repeating the old promises, make new ones that reflect your life now. For example, you might promise to keep making tea when one of you is tired, or to keep choosing each other on difficult days. Keep it personal and specific. You do not need to be poetic. Honest words matter more.

There are no legal requirements for vow renewal vows, because a renewal is not a legal ceremony. You can write anything you like. If you are renewing in a place of worship, check with the leader whether they have any guidelines. For a civil renewal, check with the venue or registrar that your words are allowed.