What is the etiquette for a best man speech in the UK?

Short answer

The etiquette for a best man speech in the UK is to keep it brief, kind and appropriate. Thank the couple and guests, avoid embarrassing or offensive stories, and end with a clear toast to the couple. Never drink too much before speaking.

In the UK, the best man speech traditionally comes after the father of the couple and the groom or partner speeches, but modern weddings vary. Check the order with the couple beforehand. The main rules are simple. Keep it under five minutes. Thank the couple, the hosts and the guests. Speak positively about both partners, not just your friend. Avoid inside jokes, old flames, or any mention of exes. Do not criticise the couple, their families or the venue. Keep humour gentle and make sure everyone can laugh, including the couple. If you are unsure whether a story is okay, leave it out. End with a toast, raising your glass and saying something like, "To the happy couple." Stand up straight, speak clearly and make eye contact with the couple. It is good manners to check your speech with the couple beforehand if you plan to mention anyone by name. Also, do not drink too much before your turn. A clear head helps you deliver your speech well and respect the couple's day.