How do you handle a plus-one who is a no-show?

First, check your final numbers with your venue or caterer. They need accurate counts for food and seating, so tell them the guest did not arrive. Do not make a fuss about it at the table. A missing person happens more often than you might think, and everyone is busy with their own day.

Next, decide who knows. Only the couple and the wedding planner or coordinator should be told. Do not ask other guests to find the missing person, and do not mention it at your table. If someone at the venue asks, give a simple answer like 'we have a final headcount and this seat is unconfirmed'.

Then think about the invitee. If your partner's friend did not come, you can send a quick message the next day. Keep it light and do not blame them. Say something like, 'We missed you at dinner, hope everything is fine'.

Finally, use this to improve future planning. Note that some plus-ones do not always arrive, but do not let that change your rules for who you invite. Every couple sets their own boundaries here.