What is the etiquette for giving money as a wedding gift?

Short answer

Giving money as a wedding gift is perfectly acceptable and often appreciated. You can give cash or a bank transfer, and it is usual to put cash in a card with a personal message. There is no set amount, give what you can afford.

Many couples now prefer money gifts, especially if they are saving for a house, a honeymoon or a big purchase. If the couple has a gift list or a wedding website, they may suggest a contribution to a fund, and that is a clear signal that money is welcome. If not, you can still give cash, but do it thoughtfully. Put the money in a card with a handwritten note, so the couple knows who it is from and can thank you properly. If you are giving a bank transfer, send it before the wedding and tell the couple in person or by message. There is no rule about how much to give. Give what you can comfortably afford, and never feel pressured to match what others give. If you cannot afford a gift, a heartfelt card is fine. The couple invited you to share their day, not to pay for it. If you are in the bridal party, you may already be spending on outfits or travel, so a smaller gift or no gift is completely acceptable.