How do you ask wedding guests for money instead of gifts?

Short answer

You can ask for money by mentioning a honeymoon fund or cash gift on a details card, not on the main invitation. Keep the wording polite and make clear that your presence is what matters most.

The most common and polite approach is to avoid asking on the main invitation, which traditionally only gives the date, time and venue. Instead, put the money request on a separate details card, on your wedding website, or pass the message through close family and the bridal party.

You might say something like, "Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. If you wish to give a gift, a contribution towards our honeymoon would be warmly appreciated." Keep it light and optional. Some couples prefer a cash or gift card box at the reception, but this should be clearly labelled and placed where guests can see it without pressure.

If you have a wedding website, this is the ideal place to explain your preferences. You can list a honeymoon fund, a contribution towards a house deposit, or a charity you support. Make sure the wording is the same everywhere so no one feels confused or singled out.

Remember that some older relatives may still expect to give a physical present, so be understanding if they do. Your guests will want to celebrate you, whatever they choose to give.