What are the etiquette rules for the bride and groom at their own wedding?

Your role on the day is host, not event manager. Greet each guest personally, whether at the ceremony, drinks reception or during the meal. Thank them for travelling and for their gift or card. It is kind to introduce people who do not know each other, especially at shared tables.

You should also plan to eat. Many couples miss their meal because they are talking or posing for photos. Ask your caterer to plate yours early or set aside portions. Keep speeches short, and if you have a toast, raise your glass to your guests and your families.

It is fine to follow your own traditions. You do not have to do a first dance, a cake cut or a bouquet toss. If you want them, do them. If not, skip them. The only firm rule is to be kind to your guests, your wedding party and each other. If something goes wrong, laugh it off. Your calmness will keep everyone else calm. Delegate decisions to your best person or a coordinator so you can stay present.