What is the chunni ceremony and when does it happen during a Sikh wedding?

Short answer

The chunni is a pre-wedding gift ceremony where the groom's family presents the bride with a scarf and gifts. It usually takes place before the main wedding day, often at the bride's home or a family gathering.

The chunni ceremony, sometimes called the kurmai, is a warm family occasion that brings both families together before the big day. The groom's mother and female relatives visit the bride to present her with a chunni, which is a decorative scarf, along with gifts, sweets and often jewellery. This gesture welcomes her into the groom's family and shows respect for her.

The event is typically held a few days before the wedding, though some families choose to combine it with other pre-wedding rituals. It is usually a women-focused gathering, though men may join for part of it. The bride may wear the chunni during the ceremony and often keeps it as a keepsake.

For couples planning this, consider the timing carefully so it fits with travel and other events. If you are hosting, think about seating for older relatives and how to include guests who cannot attend in person. The chunni itself can be chosen together or selected by the groom's family as a surprise.

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