What is the vidaai or doli and how is it done at a Sikh wedding?

The vidaai marks the moment the bride says goodbye to her parents and childhood home. It usually takes place at the end of the wedding day, just before the couple departs for their new life together. The bride throws handfuls of rice over her shoulder as she walks to the car or waits in it.

This ritual has deep meaning. The rice represents her wish that her parents never know want or hardship. She may also cry, and it is common for both families to share tears of joy and sadness at this moment.

In modern UK Sikh weddings, the vidaai often happens at the wedding venue rather than the family home. The couple may share a final dance or hug with their parents before leaving. Some families include a small gift exchange or a final meal together. The timing and style can differ between families, so be ready for whatever your hosts have arranged.