What is the mehndi or mayian before a Sikh wedding and what happens at it?

Short answer

The mehndi or mayian is a pre-wedding gathering where henna is applied to the bride's hands and feet. It is a joyful event filled with music, singing and celebration.

This event usually takes place a day or two before the wedding. Female relatives and friends gather to apply intricate henna designs to the bride's hands and feet. The darker the henna stains, the more love the couple is said to share. The bride's hands are often kept hidden until the wedding day so the design stays dark.

There is music, dancing and laughter throughout the day. Family members sing traditional songs and share stories. It is a chance for the bride's family and friends to celebrate together before the big day. Gifts are sometimes given to the bride. The atmosphere is warm and intimate, focused on the women in the family.

Men may have their own celebrations, such as the sangeet or a separate gathering. The mehndi is mainly for the women, though families vary. If you are attending, dress comfortably and be ready to join in the singing and dancing. Some guests are asked to bring a small gift or contribute to the celebration.

The mehndi is a cultural and religious tradition, not a legal ceremony. If you need to know about legal marriage requirements, check with your register office or place of worship.