What happens before the Chinese tea ceremony at a wedding?

Before the ceremony, the couple and their families prepare the tea set, arrange seating for elders, and the couple often changes into traditional outfits. The room is set up so everyone can be seen and heard.

The tea set usually includes cups, a tray, and sweets such as lotus seeds or red dates. Someone will place the cups in the order in which they will be served, starting with the eldest. Red envelopes may be prepared for the couple to receive later.

Seating is arranged so grandparents sit in the front and other elders behind them. The couple will kneel on cushions in front of each set of elders. Make sure there is space for photographers and for anyone helping with the trays.

The couple often changes into traditional clothing before this part of the day. Hair and makeup are finished so everyone looks their best. A trusted friend or family member will hold the script and remind the couple of the order.

Tip: Lay out the tea set and cushions the night before so nothing is rushed on the morning of the wedding.