How do you write wedding vows for her?

Short answer

Write vows for her by focusing on her qualities and the moments you share. Promise actions, not just feelings, and keep the tone natural and sincere.

Begin by listing the things you love about her: her patience, her laugh, the way she plans surprises. Then think about what you want to promise. Vows work best when they are specific to your life together, not copied from the internet.

Use her name and speak directly to her. Say "I promise to" rather than "I will try to". Make each promise something you can actually keep. For example, promising to always let her have the last biscuit, or to hold her hand during scary films. These small details make your vows memorable.

Keep your vows to about 100 to 150 words. Start with a sentence about why you are marrying her. Then list three or four promises. End with a line about your future together. Avoid jokes that might feel flippant on the day, unless you are both comfortable with humour.

Remember that legal wording is separate from personal vows. In England and Wales, civil ceremonies cannot include religious content. In Scotland and Northern Ireland, check with your celebrant. If you are unsure, ask the registrar or your place of worship what is permitted.