How do you write private wedding vows?

Private vows give you space to say things that feel too intimate for the ceremony. They are not legally binding, so you can be as personal and emotional as you like. Begin by recalling a specific memory, such as the first time you met or a moment you knew you were in love. Then write about what your partner brings to your life, and finish with a handful of promises that are just for them. For example, "I promise to always save you the last bite of dessert" or "I promise to hold your hand during every storm." There is no length requirement. Some couples write a page, others write a single paragraph. Write it by hand if you can, because that feels more personal. Choose a moment to exchange them that is calm and private, perhaps before the ceremony while you are getting ready, or after the ceremony when the guests are having drinks. You can also read them to each other on the morning of your wedding. If you prefer, you can exchange them as letters and read them later. The key is to make them honest and specific to your relationship.