How do you structure wedding vows?

Short answer

Structure your vows with three parts: a promise to your partner, a few personal words about them, and the legal words required by your registrar or officiant. Keep it simple and true to you.

Start by checking what your registrar, celebrant or place of worship requires. In England and Wales, civil ceremonies need the legal declaration and contracting words, which the registrar will guide you through. Your own vows come around those legal words, usually after them.

A clear structure works well. Begin with a short address to your partner, using their name. Then say what they mean to you, maybe one or two specific things you love or admire. Follow with your promises, using "I promise to" or "I will". End with a line that looks to your future together.

For a religious wedding, your officiant will tell you what is expected. Some faiths have set vows you must use, and you may add personal words if allowed. If you are unsure, ask before you write.

Keep each section to a few sentences. You do not need to cover everything. Choose the moments and promises that matter most. If you are having a humanist or belief ceremony in Scotland, your celebrant can help you shape the structure. For England and Wales, check GOV.UK if you are unsure about the legal side.