Who reads vows first, husband or wife?

In England and Wales, civil ceremonies cannot include religious content such as hymns, prayers or religious readings, but the order of your personal vows is entirely up to you. Many couples exchange vows together, reading them at the same time, while others take turns. If you prefer a traditional flow, one of you reads first and the other responds. Some couples write their vows to match in length and tone so neither feels out of place.

Religious ceremonies may follow the customs of that faith, which can include specific orders for vows. Church of England and Church in Wales weddings usually need banns read, or a licence, so ask your place of worship about their expectations. Humanist ceremonies are not legally binding on their own in England and Wales, so couples usually add a civil ceremony. Check GOV.UK for the current position on legal requirements.

Whatever you choose, tell your registrar or celebrant in advance so they can guide you on the day. Your vows are about your commitment to each other, not about following a script.