Should you get married if you argue a lot?

Every couple argues sometimes, and the amount of arguing is not the real question. The real question is what the arguments look like. Do you listen to each other? Do you apologise and repair? Do you feel safe to disagree? If yes, then arguing regularly can just mean you both care and communicate openly.

However, if arguments involve shouting, name-calling, threats, or walking away for days, that is a warning sign. So is arguing about the same issue with no progress, or feeling that your partner does not respect your views. In those cases, it is wise to pause wedding plans and work on your relationship first, possibly with a counsellor.

Marriage will bring bigger challenges than seating plans, so it is worth checking that your conflict style can handle stress. You can also learn new skills, like taking breaks during arguments or using "I" statements. Many couples grow stronger by facing disagreements together before they marry.

If you are unsure, talk honestly with your partner about your concerns. You could also speak to a trusted friend, family member or a professional. There is no shame in delaying a wedding to make sure you are both ready for marriage.