How do you say RSVP in a nice way?

If you want to avoid the acronym RSVP, use a friendly line on your invitation or wedding website. Try "We would love to know if you can join us by [date]", or "Please respond by [date] so we can save you a seat". You can also say "Let us know you are coming" or "Kindly reply by [date]".

For a more personal touch, add a short sentence after the request, such as "Your reply helps us plan the catering and seating, so we really appreciate it." This makes the request feel considerate rather than demanding.

If you are asking guests to reply online, write "Please respond on our wedding website by [date]". If you prefer a paper reply card, write "Please tick the box and post this card back by [date]".

Remember to give a clear deadline that is at least two weeks before your final numbers are due to the venue. This gives you time to chase any late replies politely.