Should you give a plus-one to a guest who is a colleague or work friend?

There is no legal or etiquette rule that requires you to give a plus-one to a colleague or work friend. The decision rests with you and your partner, and it is fair to treat work friends differently from close family and lifelong friends.

Think about what your budget and venue can support. A seated dinner and drinks for everyone can quickly become expensive, and many couples set a per-guest limit. If you have room, offering a plus-one to a work friend who is new to the area or will not know anyone else can be very kind. If you cannot, you do not owe them one.

Be clear and consistent to avoid awkwardness. If you invite someone's partner, invite their work friend's partner too. If you are not offering plus-ones, say so on the invitation and reply card so guests know exactly who is invited. Do not leave it to guesswork.

If a colleague asks, reply kindly and briefly. You can say you are keeping the day small and that you would love to meet them properly at the reception. Most people understand when the reason is clear.

• Check your budget before promising anyone a guest.
• Keep the rule the same for all work friends.
• State clearly on the invitation who is invited.