What should you do if a guest asks to bring their baby to an adults-only wedding?

Start by thanking them for asking and reply quickly. Delaying makes it harder for everyone. Say clearly that you have decided to keep the wedding to adults only and that you are sorry. Most parents will understand once they know it is a firm choice.

Avoid phrases like 'just this once' or 'unless you can find a sitter'. These open the door to negotiation and confusion. Instead, state the rule once and repeat it if needed.

If you can, offer practical help:

• suggest local babysitters or a trusted family member
• ask if they would like to join the reception drinks or evening party
• offer a quiet room if an older child attends later

Remember that your guest list is your choice. You do not owe anyone an apology for keeping an event adult-focused. If a parent pushes back, keep your answer the same. Consistency is kinder than changing your mind for one person.

If a religious ceremony or venue has its own rules about children, follow those too. Check with your place of worship or register office if you are unsure.