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You should speak to the guest privately, be kind but clear that children were not invited, and offer a solution such as childcare or a different arrangement.
This is a common and awkward situation, so handle it with warmth and honesty. Do not confront the guest in front of others. Send a private message or make a quiet phone call as soon as you notice. Say something simple and direct, such as that the wedding is adults-only and that you were not able to include children.
Be prepared for a few outcomes. The guest may already have childcare arranged and simply forgot to mention it. They may be struggling to find a sitter and need help. In that case, you can suggest local babysitters or ask a trusted friend to keep an eye on the child for an hour. Do not feel obliged to make an exception, but offering a little help can save everyone embarrassment.
If the child is already there, greet them politely and introduce them to a responsible adult who can look after them. Do not make a scene, and avoid blaming the parent in front of other guests. After the event, you can thank the guest for coming and keep the relationship friendly.
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