How do you politely say no children at a wedding?

The most polite approach is to be clear early and make it about the couple rather than a judgement on parenting. Start by addressing the envelope to the specific adults only, such as Mr and Mrs Smith, rather than the family name. This subtle cue is often enough for guests to understand the arrangement.

For anyone who might miss that hint, add a gentle line on your invitation or wedding website. You might write something like, 'We have chosen to make our wedding an adult-only occasion.' Keep the wording warm and brief. Avoid phrases that sound like you are blaming children or saying they are not welcome at all.

If guests ask directly or assume their kids are invited, reply with a short, consistent message. Reiterate that you are keeping the day to adults only and that you hope they can still join. Do not make exceptions once you have decided, as this can cause confusion and hurt feelings.

For childcare, you can offer help without promising a venue. Suggest a local babysitter or recommend a nearby play area. This shows you have thought about their needs while keeping your boundary intact.