What is the etiquette for wedding gifts from guests?

Short answer

There is no fixed UK rule for wedding gifts. Guests usually give a gift if they can, but it is not mandatory. Couples often set up a gift list, but a card with good wishes is always acceptable. Never expect a gift.

There is no fixed UK rule for wedding gifts from guests. The general etiquette is that guests give a gift if they wish and can afford to, but it is not mandatory. A thoughtful card is always acceptable. Many couples set up a gift list or suggest contributions to a honeymoon fund, but this is a suggestion, not a demand.

If you are a guest, choose a gift that reflects your relationship with the couple and your budget. It is fine to give something small and personal, or to contribute to a group gift with other guests. If you cannot give a gift, that is perfectly fine. The couple invited you to share their day, not to cover costs.

If you are the couple, do not include gift requests on the invitation. Instead, share your gift list or website details by word of mouth, or on your wedding website after invitations go out. Thank guests for gifts promptly, ideally within a few weeks. A handwritten note is traditional, but a warm email or message is also acceptable in many circles.

Remember that gifts are not a legal requirement. The only legal requirements for a wedding in the UK are giving notice, having witnesses and the ceremony itself. For any questions about gifts and tax, check GOV.UK, but for etiquette, kindness and gratitude matter most.