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Wear smart, modest clothing in any colour you like, but avoid white unless the couple has said otherwise. Many guests also choose to cover their shoulders and knees out of respect.
There is no single rule for what colour to wear, so you can choose something that makes you feel confident. The main thing is to dress smartly and respectfully for a celebration that may include a synagogue visit or a religious ceremony.
Avoid wearing white or anything that looks like a wedding dress. White is usually reserved for the couple, and you do not want to be mistaken for the bride. If you are unsure, pick a muted or solid colour rather than a loud, flashing outfit.
Modesty matters more than the colour itself. Some synagogues and ceremonies expect guests to cover their shoulders and knees. You may be asked to wear a head covering, such as a kippah or scarf, during parts of the service. If you do not have one, ask the couple or a member of the wedding party before you arrive.
- Cover your shoulders and knees if you are visiting a synagogue or a traditional ceremony.
- Bring a shawl or cardigan for a head covering if needed.
- Ask the couple if there are specific customs you should follow.
If you are attending a Friday evening service or a holiday wedding, remember that some events begin before sunset and end before nightfall, so plan your outfit accordingly. When in doubt, ask the couple or check with the place of worship.
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