How do I plan a Jewish wedding?

Begin with your rabbi or synagogue, since the legal and religious requirements depend on your community, whether Orthodox, Reform, Liberal, or another movement. They will tell you what is needed for the ceremony, such as the ketubah (marriage contract), the chuppah, the ring, and the witnesses. They can also confirm whether a civil ceremony is needed for legal recognition in England and Wales, because a purely religious Jewish ceremony may not be legally binding on its own. Check GOV.UK and your local register office for the current rules.

Once the religious side is clear, set a date that works with the Jewish calendar, avoiding Shabbat and major festivals unless your community permits it. Then book your venue, caterer with kosher certification, photographer, and other suppliers. Plan the order of the day, from the bedeken (veiling) to the chuppah ceremony, the breaking of the glass, and the seven blessings. Think about the meal, the dancing, and any traditions like the yichud (private time after the ceremony).

Involve your families early, as Jewish weddings often have many shared roles and customs. If you are having a civil ceremony as well, schedule it close to the religious one. Keep a checklist and a timeline, and ask your rabbi to review the final plan.