Do engagement parties have food and cake?

Food is a key part of any engagement party, but the amount and style depend on your budget, venue and time of day. A daytime party might be afternoon tea with sandwiches, scones and pastries. An evening party could be drinks with canapés, a buffet, or a sit-down meal. You can also ask guests to bring a dish to share, which works well for a relaxed home gathering.

Cake is traditional at engagement parties, but it is not a rule. Some couples have a small cake to cut for a photo and a toast, while others prefer cupcakes, a dessert table, or no cake at all. If you do have a cake, it does not need to be a wedding cake. Choose something you both love, like a lemon drizzle, chocolate fudge, or a seasonal fruit cake.

Think about dietary needs. Offer vegetarian, vegan and gluten-free options where you can, and label dishes clearly if you are having a buffet. Ask guests about allergies when you send invitations, or mention that you will cater for them if they let you know.

Drinks matter too. You do not need a full bar. A simple selection of wine, beer, fizz and soft drinks is plenty. If you are hosting at home, you can ask guests to bring a bottle, but make sure there is enough non-alcoholic choice for everyone.