What is an appropriate wedding gift?

Short answer

An appropriate wedding gift is something thoughtful that reflects your relationship with the couple and their tastes. It can be from their gift list, cash, a contribution to a honeymoon fund, or a personal item. The amount you spend should fit your budget, not theirs.

The best wedding gift is one that shows you care and have paid attention to the couple. Start with their wedding list if they have one, because they have chosen those items themselves. If there is no list, think about their home, hobbies, or plans. A nice bottle of something, a framed photo, or a voucher for a meal out can all work well.

Cash is always acceptable and often appreciated, especially if the couple is saving for a house or a honeymoon. You can give it in a card, or contribute to a honeymoon fund if they have set one up. Some couples prefer experiences, so a gift voucher for a theatre show, a spa day, or a nice restaurant is a lovely option.

Avoid anything too personal unless you know them very well. Do not give an item that needs to be returned or exchanged unless you include the receipt. The most important thing is the thought behind the gift, not the price tag. A handwritten card alongside your gift makes it feel extra special.