Is it rude to attend a wedding without a gift?

In the UK, bringing a gift to a wedding is a long-standing expectation, but the thought matters far more than the cost. If you cannot afford a gift, a heartfelt card with a personal message is usually acceptable, especially if you explain your situation to the couple beforehand. Some couples now ask for no gifts, often to fund a honeymoon or a charity donation instead. If they have a gift list, try to choose something from it, as it reflects what they actually need. If you are a close friend or family member, a more generous gift is customary, but never feel pressured to match others. For guests who are short on money, offering practical help, such as helping with setup or giving a small homemade item, can be a kind alternative. The key is to acknowledge the occasion. If you truly cannot give anything, a warm, sincere card is far better than turning up empty-handed without a word. Remember, the couple invited you to share their day, not to cover their costs, so your presence is valued. But etiquette says a gift, however small, is part of the deal.