How should the groom start his wedding speech?

Short answer

Start by thanking your guests for coming, then thank your partner's parents and your own. Keep it warm and simple. A short toast to the guests works well before you move on to your partner.

The best way to start is with a genuine thank you. Look at the room, smile, and say something like: "Thank you all for being here today. It means the world to us that you have travelled to share this day." This settles the room and gives you a moment to breathe.

Then thank your partner's parents and your own parents. You do not need a long speech for each. A simple line such as "Thank you to Sarah's parents for raising such a wonderful daughter, and to my mum and dad for their endless support" is enough. If you have step-parents or other important family members, include them too.

After the thanks, you can raise a glass to the guests before turning to your partner. This structure is clear and kind, and it avoids the awkwardness of starting with a joke that might fall flat. If you want to open with a small, personal story about how you met, keep it short and make sure it is flattering to everyone involved. Avoid inside jokes that exclude the room. Practise your first two sentences out loud several times so they feel natural.